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Finally BBC has discovered Sicily

I love this island like my home Lapland. Sicily is not complicated as sicilians say. Sicily is just difficult, like a wild horse you have to ride in and it took some years for us two to become friends. Sure I have lived here past life as it took so short time to understand what all this beauty is about.
The money I have earned here I will invest here coming years and hopefully be able to give more of Sicily to people who would like to have a piece of paradise in their life not passing all the mountains I had to climb before I got there.

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Jag ?lskar den h?r ?n som mitt hem Lappland. Sicilien ?r inte komplicerat som sicilianarna s?ger. Sicilien ?r bara sv?rt, som en vild h?st man m?ste rida in och det tog n?gra ?r f?r oss tv? att bli v?nner. Visst jag har bott h?r ett tidigare liv d? det tog s? kort tid att f?rst? vad all denna sk?nhet handlar om.
De pengar jag har tj?nat h?r jag kommer att investera h?r kommande ?r och f?rhoppningsvis kunna ge mer av Sicilien till m?nniskor som vill ha en bit av paradiset i sitt liv och inte beh?va kl?ttra ?ver alla berg jag tvunget fick g?ra innan jag kom dit.

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Kiruna – my home city that will be moved

It is one of the biggest operations in Swedish industrial history when the most northern city in Sweden will be moved because of the ore industry. The ore that comes from Kiruna is one of the strongest in the world and most of it gets exported to China. You see the mine on the left side with the big blue sign and on the right side the city center with the red old church, municipality and shops. The area inside the red tape is in the risk zone and will be moved first more below as you can see in the second picture.

Second photo: In the area where you see two blue signs on the right will be the new place for a new town municipality. The buildings body will be completely new, but the clock tower will remain and but on the new buildning. The church will also be moved as saved as it is. Contructions of new buildnings and neighborhoods has already started. New municipality will have a round form.

On the third photo you can see the size of the mine above and how large the ore body is under the earth. If you visit Kiruna do not miss the daily guided half day tour to the mine. It is an amazing experience.

The move of my lovely home town will take approximately 55 years. Everything to get the good iron under the city!

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Svenska

Det ?r en av de st?rsta operationerna i svenska industrihistorien n?r den nordligaste staden i Sverige kommer att flyttas p? grund av malmindustrin. Malmen som kommer fr?n Kiruna ?r en av de starkaste i v?rlden och det mesta exporteras till Kina. Du ser gruvan p? v?nster sida med den stora bl? skylten och p? h?ger sida stadens centrum med den r?da gamla kyrka, kommunen och butiker. Omr?det innanf?r r?da linjen ?r i riskzonen och kommer att flyttas f?rst ner?t som du kan se i den andra bilden.

Bild 2: I det omr?de d?r du ser tv? bl? skyltar till h?ger kommer att bli den nya platsen f?r stadshuset. Byggnaden kommer att vara helt ny, men klocktornet kommer att monteras p? de nya byggnaden. Kyrkan kommer ocks? att flyttas och bevaras som den ?r. Konstruktionen av nya stadshuset och bostadsomr?den har redan b?rjat. Nya stadshuset kommer att ha en rund form.

P? den tredje bilden kan du se storleken p? gruvan ovan och hur stor den ?r under jorden. Om du bes?ker Kiruna missa inte den guidade halvdagsturen till gruvan. Det ?r en fantastisk upplevelse.

Flytten av min underbara hemstad kommer att ta cirka 55 ?r. Allt f?r att f? tag p? malmen under staden!

A Swede living abroad visiting Sweden

I have been living in Sicily almost eight years now, it is seven years longer than the original plan. Every visit to Sweden I see how I have started to change. Two years ago I missed the train from Stockholm to Uppsala because I am used to sicilian time and always have couple of extra minutes to catch the train even if I am late here. But in Sweden no. Last year I saw myself getting irritated of the slow traffic. In Sweden they drive sooo slow and it takes ages for them to park the car. I have to watch out all the time to not drive faster than the speed limit because the fines are very high in Sweden. In Sicily I have never got a fine. I also speak my mind even more these days, straight up and just as it is. Well, I was like that also before, but now even worse. One thing I notice is that I stop swearing when I leave Sicily. Here people use very strong words in daily life and when I leave the island, I don’t swear. I guess I don’t need to, it is not needed in swedish daily life nor for getting ahead.

I have become more economical here. I save money and I think before I buy (except for shoes). In Sicily you learn to live with little because here when no water comes from the tube….yeah, no water comes from the tube. Who will you complain too? Well, I have learned to keep extra water aside and survive easily two days. Last year in Stockholm they had a hudge electricity lack because the power stations main cable exploded (this is breaking news in Sweden. Never happens!). We could hear the explosion and almost 10,000 homes were without electricity. This is very unusual in Sweden. But I did not even react. Just asked my swedish friends where they keep the candles. When they were worried to remain without electricity, I am used to put an extra pijama on and blankets during the night. Keep door closed and the candles will heat a small place. I am so used to it here in north Sicily because they do not have back up systems like in south Sicily. I have become more patient here and do not worry much anymore. The power cable in Sweden was fixed within one hour. In Sicily something like that can take two days…or if ever.

I greet the neighbours in Sweden even if they are not my neighbours. In Sicily you do. But I am also glad that swedish neighbours are less curious of other people and what neighbours do. In Sicily they can often be invasive and complain about shit things; how you hang your laundry, flowers on balcony, how I park the vespa or car… crap things.

When I talk to couples I am so used to only talk to the woman these days. In Sicily you have to or nothing will be decided and she will hate me forever. She is jealous of her man and he will also get into trouble if I speak too much to him. I do not even look him in the eyes here in Sicily, just talking to her. Noticed I started to be the same with north europeans and really working on to remember that I can easily talk to him too. Hell will not brake loose! That is a part I miss so much from my own culture. No unneccesary made up drama!

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Svenska

Jag har bott p? Sicilien n?stan ?tta ?r nu, det ?r sju ?r l?ngre ?n den ursprungliga planen. Varje bes?k till Sverige ser jag hur jag har b?rjat f?r?ndras. F?r tv? ?r sedan missade jag t?get fr?n Stockholm till Uppsala eftersom jag ?r van vid siciliansk tid att alltid ha n?gra extra minuter f?r att hinna med t?get, ?ven om jag ?r sen h?r. Men i Sverige g?r det inte. F?rra ?ret m?rkte jag att jag blev irriterad av l?ngsamma trafiken. I Sverige k?r de s???? l?ngsamt och det tar ?r f?r dem att parkera bilen. Jag m?ste se upp hela tiden att inte k?ra fortare ?n hastighetsgr?nsen eftersom b?terna ?r mycket h?ga i Sverige. P? Sicilien har jag aldrig f?tt b?ter. Jag s?ger ocks? ?nnu mer vad jag tycker dessa dagar, rakt ut och precis som det ?r. Jag var s? ocks? tidigare, men nu ?nnu v?rre. En annan sak jag m?rkt ?r att jag slutar sv?ra n?r jag l?mnar Sicilien. H?r anv?nder m?nniskorna mycket starka ord i det dagliga livet och n?r jag l?mnar ?n, sv?r jag inte . Jag antar att det inte beh?vs det d? det inte ?r ett behov i svenska vardagen eller f?r att ta sig fram?t.

Jag har blivit mer ekonomisk h?r. Jag sparar pengar och t?nker efter innan jag k?per (med undantag f?r skor). P? Sicilien l?r man sig leva med lite eftersom n?r inget vatten kommer fr?n kranen…. ja, d? kommer inget vatten ur kranen. Vem kan du klaga hos? Tja, jag har l?rt mig att ha extra vattenbeh?llare och ?verlever l?tt tv? dagar. F?rra ?ret i Stockholm hade de en stort elavbrott eftersom kraftverkets huvudkabel exploderade (detta ?r stora nyheter i Sverige. H?nder aldrig!). Vi kunde h?ra explosionen och n?stan 10.000 hem var utan elektricitet. Detta ?r mycket ovanligt i Sverige. Men jag reagerade inte ens. Fr?gade mina svenska v?nner var de har v?rmeljusen. De var oroliga att vara utan el, men jag ?r van att ta p? en extra pyjamas och filtar under natten. H?ller d?rren st?ngd och ljusen kommer att v?rma upp ett litet rum.? Jag ?r s? van vid det h?r p? norra Sicilien eftersom de inte har back up-system som p? s?dra Sicilien. Har blivit mer t?lmodig h?r och oroar mig inte l?ngre. Str?mkabeln i Sverige lagades inom en timme. P? Sicilien ?r det n?got som kan ta tv? dagar … eller om n?gonsin.

Jag h?lsar p? grannarna i Sverige, ?ven om de inte ?r mina grannar. P? Sicilien g?r du det. Men jag ?r ocks? glad ?ver att svenska grannar ?r mindre nyfikna p? andra m?nniskor och vad grannarna g?r. p? Sicilien kan de ofta vara invasiva och klaga p? skitsaker; hur du h?nger tv?tten, blommor p? balkongen, hur jag parkerar Vespa eller bil … skit saker.

N?r jag pratar med par ?r jag s? van att endast prata med kvinnan nuf?rtiden. P? Sicilien m?ste du eller ingenting kommer att beslutas och hon kommer att hata mig f?r evigt. Hon ?r svartsjuk ?ver sin man och han kommer ocks? att f? problem om jag talar f?r mycket med honom. Jag brukar inte ens se honom i ?gonen h?r p? Sicilien, bara prata med henne. M?rkte att jag b?rjade med samma sak med nordeurop?er och jobar verkligen p? att komma ih?g att jag lugnt kan prata med honom ocks?. Helvetet kommer inte braka l?s! Det ?r en sak jag saknar s? mycket fr?n min egen kultur. Ingen on?dig drama!

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What they say about them, what they say about us

I think I’ve met hundreds of sicilians these five years, perhaps thousands and it is very interesting to see that many has been to Scandinavia for work or holiday. Many does the cruises that visits all the capitals or the Norway coastline, and have also met sicilians who have rented a car and drove from south to north. Some has also lived there and many men has had a story with a scandinavian woman (something most of them regret ended). Sicilians love to talk about the world and generalize. I do not say much back (even if I write alot here in the blog) and just answer very shortly. It is more interesting to listen to their views. Most of sicilians do not understand how I could leave Scandinavia and move to Sicily, they think I am insane. They also have a quite unrealistic view of Scandinavia, for them it is like Paradise and they use the word often. Well, I agree it is one of the best places to grow up in, but it is not all perfect. We have problems too, but it is quite difficult to compare because the social-, family- and political system is totally to the contrary to Italy. The first things they always say about e.g, Sweden are five: 1) It is very clean, 2) children do not cry, 3) people smile on the streets, 4) beautiful people, 5) incredible order.

Sicilians rarely talk good about their culture and people. When I try to say something positive I often get interrupted. That is quite sad because the vision I have of sicilians is very positive (except when you get involved in a family). Personally I have been very well treated with only three big issues to solve. I have though seen that the way they treat eachother and foreigners is different. As a foreigner I feel welcomed in Sicily despite what the rumours says. The sicilian system and culture is very easy to understand. Sicily shows one side for visitors and there then is another side that comes up to the surface when you have lived here for a while. I will write more about that later.

What I like about Sicily you can find HERE

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Jag tror att jag tr?ffat hundratals sicilianare dessa fem ?r, kanske tusentals, och det ?r mycket intressant att se att m?nga har varit till Skandinavien f?r arbete eller semester. M?nga g?r kryssningarna som bes?ker alla huvudst?der eller Norges kust , och har ocks? tr?ffat sicilianare som har hyrt en bil och k?rt fr?n s?der till norr. Vissa har ?ven bott d?r och m?nga m?n har haft en historia med en skandinavisk kvinna (n?got som de flesta av dem ?ngrar tog slut). Sicilianare ?lskar att prata om v?rlden och generalisera. Jag s?ger inte mycket tillbaka (?ven om jag skriver en hel del h?r i bloggen) och svarar kort. Det ?r roligare att lyssna p? deras bild. De flesta av sicilianarna f?rst?r inte hur jag kunde l?mna Skandinavien och flytta till Sicilien, de tror att jag ?r galen. De har ocks? en ganska orealistisk bild av Skandinavien, f?r dem ?r det som paradiset och de anv?nder det ordet ofta. Jo, jag h?ller med om det ?r en av de b?sta st?llena att v?xa upp i, men allt ?r inte perfekt. Vi har problem ocks?, men det ?r ganska sv?rt att j?mf?ra eftersom det sociala- , familje- och politiska systemet ?r helt i motsats till Italien. De f?rsta sakerna de s?ger alltid om t.ex. Sverige ?r fem : 1) Det ?r mycket rent, 2 ) barn gr?ter inte, 3) m?nniskor ler p? gatorna , 4) vackra m?nniskor, 5) otrolig ordning.

Sicilianare talar s?llan bra om deras kultur och folk. N?r jag f?rs?ker s?ga n?got positivt blir jag ofta avbruten. Det ?r ganska tr?kigt eftersom den vision jag har av sicilianare ?r mycket positiv (utom n?r du ?r iblandad i en familj). Personligen har jag blivit mycket v?l behandlad med endast tre stora fr?gor att l?sa. Jag har dock sett att det s?tt som de behandlar varandra och utl?nningar ?r annorlunda. Som utl?nning k?nner jag mig v?lkommen p? Sicilien trots vad ryktena s?ger. Det sicilianska systemet och kulturen ?r mycket l?tt att f?rst?. Sicilien visar en sida f?r bes?kare och sen finns en annan sida som kommer upp till ytan n?r du har bott h?r ett tag. Kommer skriva mer om det senare.

Det jag gillar med Sicilien finner du H?R.

Feminism and Sicily…

– I apoligize to Swedes not translating this post, it is quite long. Pls use Google –

Feminism is a topic I never talk about with sicilians, especially not with sicilian women because the reaction is like you brought somekind of evil spirits in the room. And there are modern sicilian indipendent women, even if they still are quite few. And men here knows that I can take care of myself and I have no problems with them at all. To the contrary what some media information wants us to believe. Sicilian men in general are very kind and wants well. But many times they are kinda lost and treated badly.

Well, sometimes documentaries are released about the horrible life sicilian women have and how terrible these sicilian macho men are and treating women as shit. I hate these documentaries simply because they do not tell the whole truth. Of course there are shitty men here as in any other countries, but there are shitty women too. Some swedish women asks sometimes why I do not get involved or start somekind of a women movement in Sicily and I can understand them from the swedish point of view. But I will never do it. And there are many reasons why. Just the words “anti”, “fight against”, “pro this” etc makes my skin shiver because these fights rarely leads somewhere.

First: the saying that “Women who do not help other women has a special place in hell” does not mean that stronger women should carry and take life responsability of other women. It does not mean either that stronger women should turn their backs on women in need. For me it means to be a support for women who really wants and works for to get an indipendency or get away from a bad relationship and other issues. But the work is hers.

Second: women in Sicily has everything served. Loans, funds, tax reductions as entrepreneurs, education packages etc for much better conditions than for men. In Sweden we do not have anything similar. There is nothing legal that stops women to stand on their own two feets, infact it is the opposite. But the law says also that when a woman gets married and have kids, she is guaranteed for the rest of her life a economical support and the home as long as the youngest child is 18 years old. And this even if they get divorced. So it is very easy to become lazy as a woman in Italy. There you may also get a hint of one of the reasons for so many female murders in Italy. How would you feel as an ex-wife having the legal must to support your ex-husband if you divorce him, and then also loose your home? And perhaps get the right to see yuor kids 24 hours a week? Of course there is no law for women to do this. Women here has started to scream for justice, but not changing the law. So eat the cake and have the cake the same time? Now some prenups starts to pop up, instead of forcing the husband to sign over all property to his father. I get so many times the question why I do not marry a rich sicilian man, then I can relax the rest of my life. Marry for money? Not for me. I could never put myself in a situation to ask for money and permession all the time from a man or from any other human. Imagine if you have a big fight and then have to ask for 10 euros to buy tampons. This is my choice. But if someone else chooses other, it is their choice.

Third: most women I know in Sicily has stopped working when they get married. Menstruation and pregnancy is seen more as an illness, than a natural thing in womens life. And still many call in sick every month.

Four: those who goes to church and asks for priests advice in life decision are…..mostly women…or men in older generations. Just step into a church as see it for yourself. If women still prays in places where teachings are that she is inferior the man and should be treated as a fragile vessel, then the choice is hers. Too many still do it. Being religious in e.g. Sweden is a total different thing than being it in Italy, becuase the church here is everywhere. From the first day you are born ’til the post office in the neighborhood.

Of course there are fathers, husbands and boyfriends who stop their women, and so many just do as they say. As the last thing that happened when my hubbies hair dresser left her job because he did not want her to work (after four months of dating). But, the whole picture is that it is actually women themselves stopping their freedom. Personally I have no problems with sicilian men, but I have always problems with women in Sicily. And you can imagine the situation living as a swedish woman in a classical sicilian family. Not very nice. I never get any nice comments from women. Never. Just the regular bullshit which has lead to “do not treat them back badly, but do not visit and do not ask them to visit you”. Sad. Very sad. If they choose their lifestyle walking at home all days and never leave the city, it is their choice and I do not care nor say anything. The problem becomes mine when they think they know how I should live my life. This may sound harsch, but what can they really teach an indipendent woman from Sweden? You can not have one conversation without the female family gang starting to dictate my life.

I have never been a member in women movement organisations and never will. I do not think we should separate us more. Even the feminism in Sweden has gone too far, they do not deal with real issues anymore and the dialogue is that “everything is the mans fault.” Living in Sweden gave me a quite stupid idea of the genders and especially being a woman I was completely lost. And now living here seeing the womens life reminds me daily of what I do not want to become. Why not stop for a while and ask “What do I really want?”. All the prejuduces said I never saw in real life. A lot of confusion. I have practised in a women shelter and there you do not have the permission to really help nor say anyhting, it is just a in- and out place for women. And not to talk about the catholic help centers in Italy where they advice women to go back to a violent man and they even call the man to tell where they are so he can come a pick up the abused woman and kids. Insane!

My opinion in all these feminism issues is quite short. When women are prepared to provide for themselves or be smart enough to have an economical security and own idea of life, no matter of their lifestyle choices, then we will see gender equality. Because these women already exsists. And when women stands up and seriously demanding law changes. In this world there is more violence against men than women, and if we are not allowed to question matters like; if fulltime motherhood is really good, violent women, critisize religion, questioning the failure of male leadership in this world, why some sexuality is regulated ecc….there will not be any room for equality. I am pro equality, but I would rather call myself humanist than feminist, because equality is not only for genders, it is also for all other discriminated groups. But many women or men do not want to hear this. The feminism I support is what my grand mothers generation did in Scandinavia. They fought for voting rights for women, that women were allowed to open their own businesses, that they got an own identity and were not under a mans custody and many other things that gave todays women the freedom we have. And they managed to do this even having power men against them. These are issues to fight and protect for. Not blaming men all together and live in the past in stories that are not ours.

It is nice to see a change with the younger generation in Sicily. You see it so clearly. There are people breaking free and have the courage to decide their own life, even with pressure from the older generations. And I never forget a recent story I read about a young italian female architect. She went to university to be an architect. And fell in love with one of the younger male teachers. She got pregnant. He abandoned her. Her mother told her to stop studying, trying to convince the man to marry her, because according to the mother of course it was her fault she got pregnant. She refused. Her mother turned her back on her pregnant daughter and called her bad names and that she was a shame for the whole village. She managed to finish her studies even having the child. The child got her lastname as the father did not want to know about the child (in Italy it is still seen as a bastard in many places). Then she opened her own architect studio having the child with her until the child was accepted for third part care. Her mother came back to ask for forgivness quite early and the relation is repared. And guess who comes by when her firm is going well and she earns money? Yes, the father of her child. Begging her to take him back. She did not. But she forgave him and he can see the child.

It is not fair to say that everyhting is the mans fault. Many laws has been made against women in the past and still exists, but also men has suffered and suffers. And dividing genders, sexual orientatins and other silly recommendations of human relations has not been so succesful either as we can see around us. But if a person choses a lifestyle that limits her/him, then it is their choice. The problem is that too many try to force their own hell making on others and we who chose other has to be understanding. No, enough of this!

I think we all are personally responsable of our own lives. We have the right to have any opinions and lifestyles, but not to tell others how to live. And we are obligated to help eachother, but not be dependent.

Then comes the same comment “Well Johanna, it is easy for you to say!” No, it is not. We never know what exactly has happened in other peoples lives.

if you do not pay…

In Italy the system is quite easier sometimes, there is not so much hassle if you e.g. do not pay your phonebill, gas bill etc. As I have understood that when e.g. someone in Italy does not pay the electricity bill, they just shut down the connection. And then when they pay the unpaid bill, they connect you again.
In Sweden it is not quite that easy. If you e.g. do not pay a 35 ? electricity bill, you get two warnings. If you still do not pay it goes to a public enforcement agency where the bill ticks interests and other costs. At the end that bill can be thousands of euros because the system adds costs on that bill. That bill will also block you from the system, you can not get other services either. It can destroy your entire life.
In Italy you get blocked from the financial system if you e.g do not pay bank loans. But not for a small electricity bill. I saw this difference with my neighbors who use their home in Catania for vacations.

This is why I called swedish public offices twice a year to see that I have not forgotten anything since I moved. I guess now after soon five years, I can start to relax. 🙂

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I Italien ?r systemet lite l?ttare ibland, det finns inte s? mycket kr?ngel om du till exempel inte betalar din telefonr?kning, gas r?kning etc. Som jag har f?rst?tt att n?r t.ex. n?gon i Italien inte betalar elr?kningen, st?nger de bara ner anslutningen. Och sedan n?r de betalar den obetalda r?kningen, ansluts du igen.
I Sverige ?r det inte riktigt s? enkelt. Om du t.ex. inte betalar en 35 ? elr?kning, f?r du tv? varningar. Om du fortfarande inte betalar g?r den till offentliga kronofogden d?r r?kningen?tickar p? med r?ntor och andra kostnader. Vid slutet kan r?kningen ha vuxit till tusentals euro eftersom systemet medf?r kostnader p? denna r?kning. Denna snurra kommer ocks? att blockera dig fr?n systemet, kan du inte f? andra tj?nster heller. Det kan f?rst?ra hela ditt liv.
I Italien blockeras du fr?n det finansiella systemet om du t.ex. inte betalar dina bankl?n. Men inte f?r en liten elr?kning. Jag s?g denna skillnad med mina grannar som anv?nder deras hem i Catania f?r semester.


Det ?r d?rf?r jag ringde svenska offentliga kontor tv? g?nger per ?r f?r att se att jag inte har gl?mt n?got sedan jag flyttade. Jag antar att nu efter snart fem ?r, kan jag b?rja slappna av. 🙂

Thank you Sicily!

My stay here was to make a total life change. The path with collecting material things and got higher and higher salary was not making me happier. Yes, it made me glad…but not happy.
In Sicily I have had the time to recover. Time to think. Time to find myself and see what I really want from life. I have never believed in heaven or hell, nor that a group of people is Gods chosen one and took this time to find out what I really believe in. And still I have been brought up in a very religious home (will write more about it when I am ready).
I want to thank Sicily for so many things. I have learned patience here, to appreciate the things I have, value human relations even more and value life. Became more economic. I have learned the importance of eating well and also take time off work to have time for life. The generosity sicilian suppliers have given me to learn all about my work, I can not find in many other places. Thank you!
I also want to thank all sicilians for amazing dialogues and the straight opinions they have thrown in my face to train myself to see in other perspectives and yes, The Whole World Is A Country.?
I know though that I would have never had the strength to do this trip if I would not have had the scandinavian basics to stand by myself and be individual. And have not been able to do this trip if I have not learned consideration and respect for humans, nature and animals.

By this post I guess I want to say that each culture has many richness to offer. Open your eyes and take the best of them.

Love….

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Min vistelse h?r var att g?ra en total livsf?r?ndring. V?gen med att samla materiella ting och f? h?gre och h?gre l?n gjorde inte mig lyckligare. Ja, det gjorde mig glad...men inte lycklig.
P? Sicilien har jag haft tid att ?terh?mta mig. Tid att t?nka. Tis att hitta mig sj?lv och se vad jag egentligen vill ha ut av livet. Jag har aldrig trott p? himlen eller helvetet, eller att en grupp m?nniskor ?r valt av gud och tog tid att ta reda p? vad jag verkligen tror. Och ?nd? har jag v?xt upp i ett mycket religi?st hem (kommer skriva mer om det n?r jag ?r redo).?
Jag vill tacka Sicilien f?r s? m?nga saker. Jag har l?rt mig t?lamod h?r, att uppskatta det jag har, v?rdera m?nskliga relationer ?nnu mer och v?rdera livet. Blivit mer ekonomiskt. Jag har l?rt mig vikten av att ?ta bra och ?ven ta ledigt fr?n jobbet f?r att ha tid f?r livet. Generositeten sicilianska leverant?rer har gett mig att l?ra mig allt om mitt arbete, kan jag inte hitta p? m?nga andra st?llen. Tack!
Jag vill ocks? tacka alla sicilianare f?r fantastiska dialoger och de raka ?sikter de har kastat i ansiktet f?r att tr?na mig att se i andra perspektiv och ja, Hela V?rlden ?r Ett Land.?

Jag vet dock att jag aldrig skulle ha haft styrkan att g?ra denna resa om jag inte skulle ha haft de skandinaviska grunderna att st? sj?lv och vara individuell. Och hade inte kunnat g?ra denna resa om jag inte l?rt mig omtanke och respekt f?r m?nniskor, djur och natur.

Genom detta inl?gg antar jag att jag vill s?ga att varje kultur har m?nga rikedomar att erbjuda. ?ppna ?gonen och ta det b?sta av dem.

K?rlek….

Gender Roles – so what about that?

During this time in Sicily I have thought alot about gender roles, also because they are so strict and clear here in Sicily. Men do this and women do that, and that is it! Everything else is against the God given natural laws. I believed in gender roles to, but in the Swedish gender roles that differs so much from Sicilys gender roles and also in Sweden it was said that these?are nature given roles, so natures atomics and molecyles seems to be different?depending on where you are?in the world, like in Thailand where the woman has the responsability to provide for the family.
In Sweden I am a regular Swedish business woman. I can take care of myself, earn my own money, do my own matters, can change a lamp, paint a wall, and like many women also change a tire. In Sicily a woman is not supposed to know these male things like renorvate a home, change a tire or solve a problem, so here I am seen as very different, more male like,?and also in work they say many times that she works like a man, what that is supposed to mean I still do not know.

What is also very interesting to see is that?most of?the prejudices against women in Sweden, I actually see in men here in Italy. Now I say Italy because I lived in Rome before and it does not differ much. The female gender role in Sicily I still have to get some kind of a title on, because I have never met anything like this before.?It is a little bit similar to the christian gender role teaching I?grew up with, but that was the swedish version of it.?Then I as a swedish woman live up to all prejudices about men in Sicily. But in Sweden I am a regular woman. Got it? LOL.

Therefore I have stopped believing in gender roles. Why genders are so regulated I have a quite good hint of, but that goes under my own self studies and opinions.
Also see that talking about these things opens alot of nervousness, because people live their lives through these roles.

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Svenska

Under denna tid p? Sicilien har jag t?nkt mycket?p? k?nsroller, ocks? eftersom de ?r s? str?nga och tydliga h?r p? Sicilien. M?n g?r detta och kvinnor g?r det andra, och s? ?r det!?Allting annat ?r mot Guds givna naturlagar. Jag trodde ocks? p? k?nsroller, men i de svenska k?nsrollerna som skiljer sig s? mycket fr?n Siciliens k?nsroller och ?ven i Sverige sades det att dessa ?r naturgivna roller, s? naturens atomer och molekyler verkar vara olika beroende p? var du befinner dig v?rlden, som i Thailand d?r kvinnan har ansvaret f?r att f?rs?rja familjen.
I Sverige ?r jag en?vanlig svensk aff?rskvinna. Jag kan ta hand om mig sj?lv, tj?na mina egna pengar, g?ra mina egna ?renden, kan?byta en lampa, m?la en v?gg, och som m?nga kvinnor ocks? byta d?ck. P? Sicilien ska en kvinna inte veta?dessa manliga saker som renorvera ett hem, byta d?ck eller l?sa ett problem, s? h?r ses?jag som mycket annorlunda, mer manshaftig, och ?ven i arbetet s?ger de m?nga g?nger att hon jobbar?som en man, vad det ?r t?nkt att betyda jag vet fortfarande inte.

Vad som ocks? ?r mycket intressant att se ?r att?de flesta?f?rdomarna?emot kvinnor i Sverige, ser jag faktiskt hos m?n h?r i Italien. Nu s?ger jag Italien eftersom jag bodde i Rom innan och det skiljer sig inte mycket. Den kvinnliga k?nsrollen p? Sicilien m?ste jag fortfarande f? en titel p?, eftersom jag aldrig har?st?tt p??n?got liknande f?rut. Det ?r lite liknande den kristna k?nsrollsundervisningen jag v?xte upp med, men det var den svenska versionen. Sen?jag som svensk kvinna lever upp till alla f?rdomar om m?n?p? Sicilien. Men i Sverige ?r jag en vanlig kvinna. Hajjade du? LOL.

D?rf?r har jag slutat tro p? k?nsroller. Varf?r k?nen ?r s? reglerade har jag en ganska bra ledtr?d p?, men som g?r under mina egna sj?lvstudier och ?sikter.
Ser ?ven att tala om dessa saker ?ppnar mycket nervositet, eftersom m?nniskor lever sina liv genom dessa roller.

This thing that societies fall is the womans fault…Naaa…

It is a quite common debate in Italy and not surprised nor offended at all as a woman that societies fall is always blamed on working mothers, because I do not believe it. Just an easy way to blame shit on a group.?The whole worlds system and sin is always the womans fault in these religious countries. And then you put on the news…say no more.
What do surprise me more is that sometimes these articles reaches also scandianvian countries and then it is jaw dropping. Three things that are always missing in these articles and accusation are: 1) comparing countries with mothers that work and mothers that stay home, 2) who are blaming and writing these hideous articles = sources, 3) scientific studies.

Let’s take e.g. Sweden and Italy, two countries so totally opposite from eachother.?In Sweden it is quite rare to find house?wives and in Italy is is quite rare to find career women who made it herself, especially in the south. Yes they exist, but most women italian, sicilian and foreign women here are house wives or working for her mans company…and often for free.
Scandinavian countries filled with working mothers are rated year after year as the most happiest people in the western world. It is seen as the area in the world where human rights exists, a functioning system and stabile countries. Also in italian news they often mention scandinavian countries as most stabile in EU, also now during the crises.
Then look at Italy filled with house wives to save the traditional family structure from falling and saving the society standards. But what picture do you have? Is it a functioning society? Then look at south america, middle east ecc. and make your own opinion.

My mother and father has worked since I was born,?a regular swedish family system.?Also when my brothers were born. I learned to cook, clean, do school homework, travel myself early, budget, eat right?and think by myself early. And I thank my mother for being a working mother because I would never had this ground to stand on if I had got everything served! But they were always there for me, when I needed them.
Women here says But Johanna, I have three kids to take care of. Yes, so had also my mother….and my father, because he was there too.

There is nothing that stops women here to make a life. The childcare costs more than in Scandinavia, but there are also local less expensive private solutions too. We pay for childcare in Scandinavia too, here it costs about 180-300 ? / month and child. In Italy you get also child support from the Government just like in Scandinavia.

Have no rights to say if to stay home and not. But quite tired of these ridiculous accusations on working women and tired of women staying home and complaining about their lives.

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Svenska

Det ?r en ganska vanlig debatt i Italien och inte f?rv?nad eller kr?nkt alls som kvinna?att samh?llets fall alltid skylls p? arbetande m?drar, eftersom jag inte tror p? det. Bara ett enkelt s?tt att skylla all skit p? en grupp. Hela v?rldens system och synd ?r alltid kvinnans fel i dessa religi?sa l?nder. Och sen sl?r du p? nyheterna…beh?vs inte till?gga mer.
Vad g?r mig mer f?rv?nad ?r att ibland n?r dessa artiklar ocks? skandinaviska l?nder och d? ?r det k?ksl?pp. Tre saker som alltid saknas i dessa artiklar och anklagelser ?r: 1) att j?mf?ra l?nder med mammor som arbetar och mammor som stannar hemma, 2)?vilka skyller och skriver dessa hemska artiklar = k?llor, 3) vetenskapliga studier.

L?t oss ta till exempel Sverige och Italien, tv??l?nder s? totalt motsatta fr?n varandra. I Sverige ?r det ganska ovanligt att hitta hemmafruar och i Italien ganska ovanligt att hitta karri?rskvinnor som gjort det sj?lv, s?rskilt i s?dern. Ja de finns, men de flesta kvinnor; italienska, sicilianska och utl?ndska ?r hemmafruar eller arbetar f?r mannens f?retagoch ofta gratis.
Skandinaviska l?nderna ?r fyllda med arbetande m?drar och??r klassade ?r efter ?r som de lyckligaste m?nniskorna i v?stv?rlden. Ses ?ven som det omr?de i v?rlden d?r m?nskliga r?ttigheter finns, ett fungerande system och stabila l?nder. ?ven i italienska nyheter n?mns ofta skandinaviska l?nder som de?mest stabila i EU, ocks? nu under kristider.
Sedan titta p? Italien fylld med hemmafruar f?r att r?dda den traditionella familjestrukturen fr?n att falla och?beh?lla samh?llets standarder. Men vilken bild har du? ?r det ett fungerande samh?lle? Sedan titta p? Sydamerika, mellan?stern ecc. och?skapa din egen uppfattning.


Min mor och far har arbetat sedan jag f?ddes, som i de flesta svenska hem.??ven n?r mina br?der f?ddes. L?rde mig att laga mat, st?da, g?ra l?xor, reste sj?lv tidigt, budgetera veckopeng, ?ta r?tt och t?nka sj?lv tidigt. Och jag tackar min mamma f?r att hon??r en arbetande mamma eftersom jag skulle aldrig f?tt denna grund att st? p? om jag skulle ha f?tt allt serverat! Men de var alltid d?r f?r mig, n?r jag beh?vde dem.
Kvinnor s?ger h?r Men Johanna, jag har tre barn att ta hand om. Ja, s? hade ?ven min moroch min far, f?r han var d?r ocks?.

Det finns inget som stoppar kvinnor h?r f?r att?skaffa sig?ett liv. Barnomsorgen kostar mer ?n i Skandinavien, men det finns ocks? lokala billiga privata l?sningar ocks?. Vi betalar f?r barnomsorgen i Skandinavien ocks?, h?r kostar det?ca 180-300 ? / m?nad och barn. I Italien f?r du ocks? ekonomiskt st?d fr?n regeringen precis som i Skandinavien.

Har ingen r?tt att s?ga till?om valet att stannar hemma och vem som inte g?r det. Men ganska tr?tt p? dessa l?jliga anklagelser mot?arbetande kvinnor och tr?tt?p? kvinnor?som stannar hemma och klagar p??sina liv.

4 years in Sicily!

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Was not sure if I would reach four years in Sicily because of all paper hassle, but I did. It is amazing how time flies. One year planned has become four years and that has teached me not to?plan or expect too much of time to come because you never know.
And I noticed that time?has passed because friends are coming here from Sweden and I ordered Barilla biscuits. The swedish name is Singoalla biscuits. Dear friends looked online to find these Barilla biscuits and later mailed me to specify, but I had mixed up the names. LOL! Sorry…I meant Singoalla biscuits.

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Svenska
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Var inte s?ker p? om jag skulle n? fyra ?r p? Sicilien p? grund av allt papperskr?ngel, men jag gjorde det. Det ?r fantastiskt hur tiden flyger. Ett ?r planerat har?blivit fyra ?r och det?jag l?rt mig att inte planera eller f?rv?nta sig alltf?r mycket av kommande tid eftersom du aldrig vet.

Och jag m?rkte att tiden har g?tt eftersom v?nner kommer hit fr?n Sverige och jag best?llde Barilla kex. Det svenska namnet ?r Singoalla kex. V?nnerna surfade p? n?tet f?r att hitta dessa Barilla kex och sedan?mailade mig f?r att specificera och jag?hade blandat?ihop namnen. LOL! Sorry…. Jag menade Singoalla kex.

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