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What they say about them, what they say about us

I think I’ve met hundreds of sicilians these five years, perhaps thousands and it is very interesting to see that many has been to Scandinavia for work or holiday. Many does the cruises that visits all the capitals or the Norway coastline, and have also met sicilians who have rented a car and drove from south to north. Some has also lived there and many men has had a story with a scandinavian woman (something most of them regret ended). Sicilians love to talk about the world and generalize. I do not say much back (even if I write alot here in the blog) and just answer very shortly. It is more interesting to listen to their views. Most of sicilians do not understand how I could leave Scandinavia and move to Sicily, they think I am insane. They also have a quite unrealistic view of Scandinavia, for them it is like Paradise and they use the word often. Well, I agree it is one of the best places to grow up in, but it is not all perfect. We have problems too, but it is quite difficult to compare because the social-, family- and political system is totally to the contrary to Italy. The first things they always say about e.g, Sweden are five: 1) It is very clean, 2) children do not cry, 3) people smile on the streets, 4) beautiful people, 5) incredible order.

Sicilians rarely talk good about their culture and people. When I try to say something positive I often get interrupted. That is quite sad because the vision I have of sicilians is very positive (except when you get involved in a family). Personally I have been very well treated with only three big issues to solve. I have though seen that the way they treat eachother and foreigners is different. As a foreigner I feel welcomed in Sicily despite what the rumours says. The sicilian system and culture is very easy to understand. Sicily shows one side for visitors and there then is another side that comes up to the surface when you have lived here for a while. I will write more about that later.

What I like about Sicily you can find HERE

Svenska

Jag tror att jag tr?ffat hundratals sicilianare dessa fem ?r, kanske tusentals, och det ?r mycket intressant att se att m?nga har varit till Skandinavien f?r arbete eller semester. M?nga g?r kryssningarna som bes?ker alla huvudst?der eller Norges kust , och har ocks? tr?ffat sicilianare som har hyrt en bil och k?rt fr?n s?der till norr. Vissa har ?ven bott d?r och m?nga m?n har haft en historia med en skandinavisk kvinna (n?got som de flesta av dem ?ngrar tog slut). Sicilianare ?lskar att prata om v?rlden och generalisera. Jag s?ger inte mycket tillbaka (?ven om jag skriver en hel del h?r i bloggen) och svarar kort. Det ?r roligare att lyssna p? deras bild. De flesta av sicilianarna f?rst?r inte hur jag kunde l?mna Skandinavien och flytta till Sicilien, de tror att jag ?r galen. De har ocks? en ganska orealistisk bild av Skandinavien, f?r dem ?r det som paradiset och de anv?nder det ordet ofta. Jo, jag h?ller med om det ?r en av de b?sta st?llena att v?xa upp i, men allt ?r inte perfekt. Vi har problem ocks?, men det ?r ganska sv?rt att j?mf?ra eftersom det sociala- , familje- och politiska systemet ?r helt i motsats till Italien. De f?rsta sakerna de s?ger alltid om t.ex. Sverige ?r fem : 1) Det ?r mycket rent, 2 ) barn gr?ter inte, 3) m?nniskor ler p? gatorna , 4) vackra m?nniskor, 5) otrolig ordning.

Sicilianare talar s?llan bra om deras kultur och folk. N?r jag f?rs?ker s?ga n?got positivt blir jag ofta avbruten. Det ?r ganska tr?kigt eftersom den vision jag har av sicilianare ?r mycket positiv (utom n?r du ?r iblandad i en familj). Personligen har jag blivit mycket v?l behandlad med endast tre stora fr?gor att l?sa. Jag har dock sett att det s?tt som de behandlar varandra och utl?nningar ?r annorlunda. Som utl?nning k?nner jag mig v?lkommen p? Sicilien trots vad ryktena s?ger. Det sicilianska systemet och kulturen ?r mycket l?tt att f?rst?. Sicilien visar en sida f?r bes?kare och sen finns en annan sida som kommer upp till ytan n?r du har bott h?r ett tag. Kommer skriva mer om det senare.

Det jag gillar med Sicilien finner du H?R.

Five Years in Sicily

Five years in Sicily. It is not a sensational feeling anymore, it is just daily life these days as all the mountains and valleys are crossed and I have reached my goal here. I am not sure if I will stay or if I will go, I guess life will tell…but until then I stay here and keep doing things I have always wanted to do. My time here in Sicily has learnt me so much about life and I have faced the challenges I was looking for. It has in no way been easy, but it has been a very rich experience. I continue to explore this island, continue to write and I hope to find a new project to put my teeth in.

Italians and sicilians asks often how I can live in a country like Italy. I think it is quite sad to get that question. Yes, Scandinavia is one of the best areas in the world to born and grow up in (regardless how much foreign media wants to ruin that reputation), and with the life knowledge we get there we can practically live anywhere in the world and be free as individuals. But then it is good also for a Scandinavian to try another country to get some perspective of the world.
I like to live in Italy, but I do not adapt the whole system. There are actually two thing I dislike very much in Italy, and it is the family system and the church, because those two are the main issues in Italy and is like a cancer throughout the society. But the rest is actually totally ok and I like the people.
I can live in Italy because I have got a totally different start in life, a start that is hard to explain if you do not know anything about Scandinavia. And living a swedish lifestyle in Sicily (as in Rome) works perfectly well. Only time my life is hell is when I have to deal with sicilian family, but I can handle it quite well these days. I have no contact with them anymore, the easiest way because they will never respect your privacy how ever you ask them. Here you can not even hang curtains without having the family involved with advices that are so old fashion and may I say stupid. But the rest in Sicily I like.

It is five years now and if this place would be a shitty place, I would not stay here even one more day. I have learnt so much about life and myself here and have also very much Sicily to thank for that. I get the best from two cultures and feel blessed! Thank you!

Svenska

Fem ?r p? Sicilien. Det ?r inte en sensationell k?nsla l?ngre, det ?r bara det dagliga livet dessa dagar eftersom alla berg och dalar korsats och jag har n?tt mitt m?l h?r. Jag ?r inte s?ker p? om jag kommer att stanna eller om jag kommer att g?, jag antar att livet kommer med ett svar…men tills dess stannar jag h?r och forts?tter g?ra saker jag alltid velat g?ra. Min tid h?r p? Sicilien har l?rt mig s? mycket om livet och jag har st?tt inf?r de utmaningar som jag letade efter. Det har inte p? n?got s?tt varit l?tt, men det har varit en mycket rik erfarenhet. Jag forts?tter att utforska denna ?, forts?tter att skriva och jag hoppas att hitta ett nytt projekt att s?tta mina t?nder i.
Italienarna och sicilianarna fr?gar ofta hur jag kan leva i ett land som Italien. Jag tycker det ?r ganska tr?kigt att f? den fr?gan. Ja, Skandinavien ?r ett av de b?sta omr?dena i v?rlden att f?das och v?xa upp i (oavsett hur mycket utl?ndska medier vill f?rst?ra det ryktet), och med livskunskapen vi f?r kan vi praktiskt taget bo var som helst i v?rlden och vara fria som individer. Men d? ?r det bra ?ven f?r en skandinav att prova ett annat land f?r att f? lite perspektiv p? v?rlden.
Jag tycker om att bo i Italien, men jag anpassar inte in i hela systemet. Det finns faktiskt tv? saker jag ogillar v?ldigt mycket i Italien, och det ?r familjesystemet och kyrka , eftersom de tv? ?r de mest skadligaste faktorerna i Italien och ?r som en cancer i hela samh?llet. Men resten ?r faktiskt helt ok och jag gillar folket.
Jag kan leva i Italien d?rf?r att jag har f?tt en helt annan start i livet, en start som ?r sv?rt att f?rklara om du inte vet n?got om Skandinavien. Och att leva en svensk livsstil p? Sicilien (som i Rom) fungerar mycket v?l. Endast g?ngen livet f?rvandlas till ett helvete ?r n?r jag m?ste ha att g?ra med en siciliansk familj, men jag kan hantera det ganska bra i dessa dagar. Jag har ingen kontakt med dem l?ngre, det enklaste s?ttet eftersom de aldrig kommer att respektera din integritet hur du ?n ber dem. H?r du kan inte ens h?nga gardiner utan att ha familjen involverad med r?d som ?r s? gammalmodiga och kan jag ocks? s?ga korkade. Men resten p? Sicilien gillar jag.

Det ?r fem ?r nu , och om denna plats skulle vara en hemsk plats, skulle jag inte stanna h?r en enda dag till. Jag har l?rt mig s? mycket om livet och mig sj?lv h?r och har ocks? mycket att tacka Sicilien f?r. Jag f?r det b?sta fr?n tv? kulturer och k?nner mig v?lsignad! Tack !

Zlatan, Volvo, Italy

Zlatan Ibrahimovic gets between ten and twelve million for the commercial with Volvo. Now launched abroad commenced where Italy is among the first countries out, where it has become a success.
A version where Zlatan speaks Italian.

I like this advertisementvery much.

Svenska

Zlatan Ibrahimovic f?r mellan tio och tolv miljoner f?r det kommersiella med Volvo. Nu lanseras utomlands p?b?rjats d?r Italien ?r bland de f?rsta l?nderna ut, d?r det har blivit en succ?.
En version d?r Zlatan talar italienska.

Jag gillar den h?r reklamen v?ldigt mycket.

Feminism and Sicily…

– I apoligize to Swedes not translating this post, it is quite long. Pls use Google –

Feminism is a topic I never talk about with sicilians, especially not with sicilian women because the reaction is like you brought somekind of evil spirits in the room. And there are modern sicilian indipendent women, even if they still are quite few. And men here knows that I can take care of myself and I have no problems with them at all. To the contrary what some media information wants us to believe. Sicilian men in general are very kind and wants well. But many times they are kinda lost and treated badly.

Well, sometimes documentaries are released about the horrible life sicilian women have and how terrible these sicilian macho men are and treating women as shit. I hate these documentaries simply because they do not tell the whole truth. Of course there are shitty men here as in any other countries, but there are shitty women too. Some swedish women asks sometimes why I do not get involved or start somekind of a women movement in Sicily and I can understand them from the swedish point of view. But I will never do it. And there are many reasons why. Just the words “anti”, “fight against”, “pro this” etc makes my skin shiver because these fights rarely leads somewhere.

First: the saying that “Women who do not help other women has a special place in hell” does not mean that stronger women should carry and take life responsability of other women. It does not mean either that stronger women should turn their backs on women in need. For me it means to be a support for women who really wants and works for to get an indipendency or get away from a bad relationship and other issues. But the work is hers.

Second: women in Sicily has everything served. Loans, funds, tax reductions as entrepreneurs, education packages etc for much better conditions than for men. In Sweden we do not have anything similar. There is nothing legal that stops women to stand on their own two feets, infact it is the opposite. But the law says also that when a woman gets married and have kids, she is guaranteed for the rest of her life a economical support and the home as long as the youngest child is 18 years old. And this even if they get divorced. So it is very easy to become lazy as a woman in Italy. There you may also get a hint of one of the reasons for so many female murders in Italy. How would you feel as an ex-wife having the legal must to support your ex-husband if you divorce him, and then also loose your home? And perhaps get the right to see yuor kids 24 hours a week? Of course there is no law for women to do this. Women here has started to scream for justice, but not changing the law. So eat the cake and have the cake the same time? Now some prenups starts to pop up, instead of forcing the husband to sign over all property to his father. I get so many times the question why I do not marry a rich sicilian man, then I can relax the rest of my life. Marry for money? Not for me. I could never put myself in a situation to ask for money and permession all the time from a man or from any other human. Imagine if you have a big fight and then have to ask for 10 euros to buy tampons. This is my choice. But if someone else chooses other, it is their choice.

Third: most women I know in Sicily has stopped working when they get married. Menstruation and pregnancy is seen more as an illness, than a natural thing in womens life. And still many call in sick every month.

Four: those who goes to church and asks for priests advice in life decision are…..mostly women…or men in older generations. Just step into a church as see it for yourself. If women still prays in places where teachings are that she is inferior the man and should be treated as a fragile vessel, then the choice is hers. Too many still do it. Being religious in e.g. Sweden is a total different thing than being it in Italy, becuase the church here is everywhere. From the first day you are born ’til the post office in the neighborhood.

Of course there are fathers, husbands and boyfriends who stop their women, and so many just do as they say. As the last thing that happened when my hubbies hair dresser left her job because he did not want her to work (after four months of dating). But, the whole picture is that it is actually women themselves stopping their freedom. Personally I have no problems with sicilian men, but I have always problems with women in Sicily. And you can imagine the situation living as a swedish woman in a classical sicilian family. Not very nice. I never get any nice comments from women. Never. Just the regular bullshit which has lead to “do not treat them back badly, but do not visit and do not ask them to visit you”. Sad. Very sad. If they choose their lifestyle walking at home all days and never leave the city, it is their choice and I do not care nor say anything. The problem becomes mine when they think they know how I should live my life. This may sound harsch, but what can they really teach an indipendent woman from Sweden? You can not have one conversation without the female family gang starting to dictate my life.

I have never been a member in women movement organisations and never will. I do not think we should separate us more. Even the feminism in Sweden has gone too far, they do not deal with real issues anymore and the dialogue is that “everything is the mans fault.” Living in Sweden gave me a quite stupid idea of the genders and especially being a woman I was completely lost. And now living here seeing the womens life reminds me daily of what I do not want to become. Why not stop for a while and ask “What do I really want?”. All the prejuduces said I never saw in real life. A lot of confusion. I have practised in a women shelter and there you do not have the permission to really help nor say anyhting, it is just a in- and out place for women. And not to talk about the catholic help centers in Italy where they advice women to go back to a violent man and they even call the man to tell where they are so he can come a pick up the abused woman and kids. Insane!

My opinion in all these feminism issues is quite short. When women are prepared to provide for themselves or be smart enough to have an economical security and own idea of life, no matter of their lifestyle choices, then we will see gender equality. Because these women already exsists. And when women stands up and seriously demanding law changes. In this world there is more violence against men than women, and if we are not allowed to question matters like; if fulltime motherhood is really good, violent women, critisize religion, questioning the failure of male leadership in this world, why some sexuality is regulated ecc….there will not be any room for equality. I am pro equality, but I would rather call myself humanist than feminist, because equality is not only for genders, it is also for all other discriminated groups. But many women or men do not want to hear this. The feminism I support is what my grand mothers generation did in Scandinavia. They fought for voting rights for women, that women were allowed to open their own businesses, that they got an own identity and were not under a mans custody and many other things that gave todays women the freedom we have. And they managed to do this even having power men against them. These are issues to fight and protect for. Not blaming men all together and live in the past in stories that are not ours.

It is nice to see a change with the younger generation in Sicily. You see it so clearly. There are people breaking free and have the courage to decide their own life, even with pressure from the older generations. And I never forget a recent story I read about a young italian female architect. She went to university to be an architect. And fell in love with one of the younger male teachers. She got pregnant. He abandoned her. Her mother told her to stop studying, trying to convince the man to marry her, because according to the mother of course it was her fault she got pregnant. She refused. Her mother turned her back on her pregnant daughter and called her bad names and that she was a shame for the whole village. She managed to finish her studies even having the child. The child got her lastname as the father did not want to know about the child (in Italy it is still seen as a bastard in many places). Then she opened her own architect studio having the child with her until the child was accepted for third part care. Her mother came back to ask for forgivness quite early and the relation is repared. And guess who comes by when her firm is going well and she earns money? Yes, the father of her child. Begging her to take him back. She did not. But she forgave him and he can see the child.

It is not fair to say that everyhting is the mans fault. Many laws has been made against women in the past and still exists, but also men has suffered and suffers. And dividing genders, sexual orientatins and other silly recommendations of human relations has not been so succesful either as we can see around us. But if a person choses a lifestyle that limits her/him, then it is their choice. The problem is that too many try to force their own hell making on others and we who chose other has to be understanding. No, enough of this!

I think we all are personally responsable of our own lives. We have the right to have any opinions and lifestyles, but not to tell others how to live. And we are obligated to help eachother, but not be dependent.

Then comes the same comment “Well Johanna, it is easy for you to say!” No, it is not. We never know what exactly has happened in other peoples lives.

My Love for Sicily – What I love about Sicily!

Patience is one of the best things in Sicily. In north Europe we are so used to a system that thinks for you that a smallest problem on the road creates huge unneccesary stress in life. Here if the internet or the phone does not work, then they just does not work. You learn to be flexible. You learn to calm down. Things takes longer time and if it goes atleast 50% as you planned, then good! If you are late 20 minutes because of traffic blockage, that is totally ok. No one is irritated at you.

Independence Italians, especially Sicilians, are not dependent of the system. Population has their own system. This is a fantastic freedom where you are forced to plan for your life. In Sicily the family is your safety net, but as a foreigner your safety net is you. It forces you to think further, to the next day, to the next month. You always have to have a plan B. I feel really free for the first time in my life. And learnt to trust my skills. In Sweden people rely on the system, and when you move you see that the system ain’t that amazing anyway.

The System There are many good things in Italy that no one ever writes about. E.g. the healthcare system in Italy is much better, just to name one. If you have to visit a hospital you see a doctor, not a nurse. You choose your own private doctor and in some cases the doctor makes home visits if you can not go to the hospital. And this works. The system is free, you pay nothing visiting a hospital or being hospitalized. These things we do not learn to know about because the only media we get from Italy is about Berlusconi and top 5 places in Tuscany. You come to learn that every country has its good an bad sides. You do not need to point on other countries fault to make your own feel great. You kinda live in reality.

See Other People In Sicily a total stranger can say Hello to you. And you do not have to be afraid. Sicilians see other people. They help other people without keeping a “I helped you, now the person has to help me” account. It took me a long time to just accept a helping hand and not feel in guilt to find a solution how to repay that favour. With time and right occasion it will…if it ever will…but it does not matter. The neighbors greets you a lovely day.

Economy Have learned to become more economic and I really needed that. You never know how your life can change so you need to have a back up plan if something happens. The social system works fine at least in Catania, and if you get sick from work INPS pays in time. This “buy and throw away if you get tired” mentality is gone and I am happy for that because happiness for me does not lay in the latest trends, it lays in life quality and your own choices, not what the trendy magazine tell you to like. These days I also think some days before I buy. Do not shop everyday anymore and buy the things I really need. Identity is no longer in the things I own.

Humanity In Sicily there is a humanity that we in northern countries has lost a long time ago. Especially in the immigration issue you see so many locals helping. Sicilians never attack people officially, nor have I met racism here. Patience with older and sick people. In work people do not step on other people in all ways to get ahead. Yes, they can steal your work like in other places, but they do not cut your feets. They have this saying that “Every person has to earn his bread”.

Real Food Sicily has an amazing food production and that is why I am still here. The knowledge of the natures richness is amazing and I thank sicilians for having the patience to teach me everything. Everything grows here and have learned to eat by the seasons and use food as medicine. Thanks to this new knowledge I have also got rid of stomach problems, allergies and many other health problems. When I go to meetings there is always someone who has brought a new spice or fruit from their garden, explains how to use it and then waiting to hear my results. 🙂

Weather…. do I really have to say more 🙂 Okok…august is too hot 😉

Speak Out In Sicily you can have your opinion. It is quite funny that the society is seen as a closed place, but I have never met so much interesting point of views as here. And you can speak out your own opinions without someone calling you an idiot. Personal attacks I have never met here. I have learned to think, study and create my own point of view. Sweden is seen as an open minded country. I totally agree, but it is when it comes to new trends and other cultures. Having a different opinion than the mass, creates a quite big hell for you.

Realistic view of the world After the first year here and when I started to get out from the swedish pink bubble and saw my home country from new perspectives, I started to feel lured. From early school years we learn that Sweden is the best, we have democracy, we are leading in the world, we have gender equality…and so on. Now living from that system and meeting other countries I see that it is not true. We are fantastic in many things, but so are also other countries and people. Perhaps we have great laws when it comes to become a parent, but the rest I have to say is not true. I kinda woke up here! Here you also have access to all kinds of different information sources and you meet so much people from all over the world. And all kinds of people.

Success is ok Here people look up to successful people, those who made it or can make it by their own. In Sweden we have a stupid “Jante lagen” which means to keep your success for yourself. No one wants to know if you are better that someone else. Stupid career jealousy that actually stops individual development. It took me along time to have the courage to actually speak out loud what I do. My image of hobby exporting part time house wife is slowly peeling off (that is what people actually think, and the fault is mine, I never PR’d what I do) and now people start to know what I really do. Some swedes will and still hate me and e.g. stops reading the blog, but the world is bigger than Sweden.

I am a Woman I am glad to feel like a woman. This gender politics in Sweden is out of control. It has become to wipe out men and women. It has become that women has to become men to be able to somehow make a career. I thought it was about to collaborate. Feminism in Sweden is about trying to get more females to the company direction boards than to deal with real issues like rape, violence, balcony girls etc. If Swedish women want a job in a company director board, they will get it anyway. It is not that difficult, but do we want the job? No research has been made about this, it is all about keeping somekind of a political perfect face in the world. And that face is getting old. In Sicily I use my female skills working and I have never been harrassed nor met any men talking bad about women. In Sweden it happened often. Here men actually say “Women are better company leaders, sad that local women are not interested to work!” To back this up only Finland has made a study about this and came to the same conclusion (eva.fi). If a man says you have a very nice skirt, it is not harrassment, it is a compliment. In Sweden a man can not say these things anymore. It has gone too far… But I do not feel lost anymore in feminity.

Bel Far Niente… it is totally ok just to do nothing. Absolutely nothing. Lay in the terrass chair and stare at the sky…

I have no money now It is such a freedom to say “I can not come this week because I am short in money”. And yes you have these periods when you pay start-ups from your pocket. No one looks strange at you, because it is normal. You do not have to be ashamed to have less money a week or two. With a 800,000 ? loan to pay for a house you could not afford anyway and two car loans with it, is not having money…it is quite stupid. Have started to use this in north Europe too, and love the faces.

 

Svenska

T?lamod ?r en av de b?sta sakerna i Sicilien. I norra Europa ?r vi s? vana vid ett system som t?nker ?t oss att minsta lilla problem p? v?gen skapar enorm on?dig stress i livet. H?r om internet eller telefonen inte fungerar, d? fungerar de bara inte. Du l?r dig att vara flexibel. Du l?r dig att lugna ner. Saker tar l?ngre tid och om det g?r minst 50% som du planerat, s? bra! Om du ?r sen 20 minuter p? grund av trafikblockering, ?r det helt ok. Ingen ?r irriterad p? dig.

Oberoende Italienare, s?rskilt sicilianare, ?r inte beroende av systemet. Befolkningen har sitt eget system. Detta ?r en fantastisk frihet d?r du tvingas att planera f?r ditt liv. P? Sicilien ?r familjen ditt skyddsn?t, som en utl?nning ?r ditt skyddsn?t du. Det tvingar dig att t?nka vidare, till n?sta dag, till n?sta m?nad. Du m?ste alltid ha en plan B. Jag k?nner mig verkligen fri f?r f?rsta g?ngen i mitt liv. Och l?rt mig att lita p? mina kunskaper. I Sverige litar m?nniskor p? systemet, och n?r du flyttar ser du att systemet inte ?r s? fantastiskt ?nd?.

Systemet Det finns m?nga bra saker i Italien som ingen n?gonsin skriver om. T.ex. sjukv?rdssystemet i Italien ?r mycket b?ttre, bara f?r att n?mna en. Om du m?ste bes?ka ett sjukhus tr?ffar du en l?kare, inte en sjuksk?terska. Du v?ljer din egen privata l?kare och i vissa fall g?r l?karen hembes?k om du inte kan ?ka till sjukhuset. Och detta fungerar. Systemet ?r gratis, du betalar ingenting n?r du bes?ker ett sjukhus eller ligger p? sjukhus. Dessa saker l?r vi oss inte veta om eftersom de enda medier som vi f?r fr?n Italien ?r om Berlusconi och topp 5 platser i Toscana. Du l?r dig att varje land har sina goda och d?liga sidor. Du beh?ver inte peka p? andra l?nders fel f?r att g?ra din egen b?ttre. Du lever som i verkligheten.

Se andra m?nniskor P? Sicilien kan en total fr?mling kan s?ga Hej till dig. Och du beh?ver inte vara r?dd. Sicilianare ser andra m?nniskor. De hj?lper andra m?nniskor utan att h?lla ett jag hj?lpte dig, nu ska personen hj?lpa mig” –konto. Det tog mig l?ng tid att bara acceptera en hj?lpande hand och inte k?nna i skuld f?r att finna en l?sning hur man ska ?terbetala fav?ren. Med tiden och r?tt tillf?lle kommer det om det n?gonsin kommer men det spelar ingen roll. Grannarna h?lsar dig en h?rlig dag.

Ekonomi har l?rt mig att bli mer ekonomiskt och jag beh?vde det. Man vet aldrig hur ditt liv kan f?r?ndras s? du m?ste ha en back up plan om n?got h?nder. Det sociala systemet fungerar bra ?tminstone i Catania, och om du blir sjuk fr?n arbetet betalar INPS i tid. Denna k?p och kasta bort om du tr?ttnarmentalitet ?r borta och jag ?r glad f?r det eftersom lycka f?r mig ligger inte i de senaste trenderna, l?gger den p? livskvalitet och mina egna val, inte vad den trendiga tidningen ber?ttar att jag ska gilla. Dessa dagar t?nker jag efter ett par dagar innan jag k?per. Handlar inte varje dag l?ngre och k?per de saker jag verkligen beh?ver. Identiteten ?r inte l?ngre i de saker jag ?ger.

Medm?nsklighet P? Sicilien finns en medm?nsklighet som vi i nordliga l?nder har f?rlorat f?r l?nge sedan. Speciellt i invandringsfr?gan ser du s? m?nga i lokalbefolkningen som hj?lper. Sicilianare attackerar aldrig m?nniskor officiellt, inte heller har jag tr?ffat p? rasism h?r. T?lamod med ?ldre och sjuka m?nniskor. I arbetet trampar inte m?nniskor p? andra m?nniskor p? alla s?tt att komma fram?t. Ja, de kan stj?la ditt arbete som p? andra st?llen, men de beh?ver inte kapa dina f?tter. De har ett s?gande Varje person m?ste f?rtj?na sitt levebr?d“.

Riktig Mat Sicilien har en fantastisk livsmedelsproduktion och det ?r d?rf?r jag fortfarande ?r h?r. Kunskapen om naturens rikedom ?r fantastiskt och jag tackar sicilianare f?r att ha t?lamod att l?ra mig allt. Allt v?xer h?r och har l?rt mig att ?ta med ?rstiderna och anv?nda mat som medicin. Tack vare denna nya kunskap har jag ocks? blivit av med magproblem, allergier och m?nga andra h?lsoproblem. N?r jag g?r till m?ten finns det alltid n?gon som har tagit med en ny krydda eller frukt fr?n deras tr?dg?rd, f?rklarar hur man anv?nder den och sedan v?ntar p? att h?ra mina resultat. 🙂

V?dret …. beh?ver jag egentligen s?ga mer 🙂 okok Augusti ?r f?r varmt😉

Speak Out P? Sicilien kan du ha din ?sikt. Det ?r ganska roligt att samh?llet ses som en sluten plats, men jag har aldrig tr?ffat s? mycket intressanta ?sikter som h?r. Och du kan tala ut dina egna ?sikter utan n?gon kallar dig en idiot. Personliga attacker jag aldrig har tr?ffat p? h?r. Jag har l?rt mig att t?nka, studera och skapa min egen synvinkel. Sverige ses som ett ?ppet land. Jag h?ller helt med, men det ?r n?r det g?ller nya trender och andra kulturer. Att ha en annan ?sikt ?n stora massas, skapar ett ganska stort helvete f?r dig.

Realistisk syn p? v?rlden Efter det f?rsta ?ret h?r och n?r jag b?rjade komma ut ur den svenska rosa bubblan och s?g mitt hemland fr?n nya perspektiv, b?rjade jag k?nna mig lurad. Fr?n tidiga skol?ren l?r vi oss att Sverige ?r b?st, vi har demokrati, vi ?r ledande i v?rlden, har vi j?mst?lldhet och s? vidare. Nu lever jag ifr?n systemet och m?ter andra l?nder och ser jag att det inte ?r sant. Vi ?r fantastiskt bra p? m?nga saker, men det ?r ocks? andra l?nder och folk. Kanske har vi bra lagar n?r det g?ller att bli f?r?lder, men resten m?ste jag s?ga ?r inte sant. Jag vaknade som upp h?r! H?r har du ocks? tillg?ng till alla typer av olika informationsk?llor och du tr?ffar s? mycket folk fr?n hela v?rlden. Och alla typer av m?nniskor.

Framg?ng ?r ok H?r ser folk upp till framg?ngsrika m?nniskor, de som gjorde det eller kan g?ra det som egen. I Sverige har vi en dum Jante Lagenvilket inneb?r att h?lla din framg?ng f?r dig sj?lv. Ingen vill veta om du ?r b?ttre ?n n?gon annan. Dum karri?rssvartsjuka som faktiskt stannar upp den individuella utvecklingen. Det tog mig l?ng tid att ha modet att faktiskt tala h?gt om vad jag g?r. Bilden av mig som hobby exporterande deltidshemmafru skalas l?ngsamt av (det ?r vad folk egentligen tror, och felet ?r mitt, jag har aldrig PR’at vad jag g?r), och nu b?rjar folk att veta vad jag egentligen g?r. N?gra svenskar kommer och redan hatar mig och t.ex. slutar l?sa bloggen, men v?rlden ?r st?rre ?n Sverige.

Jag ?r en kvinna Jag ?r glad att k?nna mig som en kvinna. J?mst?lldhetspolitiken i Sverige ?r utom kontroll. Det har blivit att utpl?na m?n och kvinnor. Det har blivit att kvinnor m?ste bli m?n f?r att kunna p? n?got s?tt g?ra en karri?r. Jag trodde det handlade om att samarbeta. Feminism i Sverige handlar om att f?rs?ka f? fler kvinnor till bolagsstyrelser ?n att ta itu med verkliga fr?gor som v?ldt?kt, v?ld, balkongflickor etc. Om svenska kvinnor vill ha ett jobb i en f?retagsstyrelse, kommer de att f? det ?nd?. Det ?r inte s? sv?rt, men vi vill ha jobbet? Ingen forskning har gjorts om detta, det ?r som att h?lla en slags utav ett politiskt perfekt ansikte i v?rlden. Och det ansiktet b?rjar blir gammalt. P? Sicilien anv?nder jag mina kvinnliga f?rdigheter i arbetet och jag har aldrig blivit trakasserad eller tr?ffat n?gra m?n som talar illa om kvinnor. I Sverige h?nde det ofta. H?r s?ger m?n faktiskt “Kvinnor ?r b?ttre f?retagsledar , tr?kigt att lokala kvinnor inte ?r intresserade av att arbeta !” F?r att backa upp detta har endast Finland har gjort en studie och kom fram till samma slutsats (eva.fi). Om en man s?ger att du har en mycket fin kjol, ?r det inte trakasserier , det ?r en komplimang. I Sverige kan en man inte kan s?ga dessa saker l?ngre . Det har g?tt f?r l?ngt … Men jag k?nner mig inte vilse l?ngre i feminiteten.

Bel Far Niente det ?r helt ok att bara g?ra ingenting. Absolut ingenting. Ligga i terrassstolen och stirra p? himlen

Jag har inga pengar nu Det ?r en s?dan frihet att s?ga Jag kan inte komma den h?r veckan eftersom jag har lite pengar“. Och ja du har dessa perioder n?r du betalar nystarter ur egna fickan. Ingen ser konstigt p? dig, eftersom det ?r normalt. Du beh?ver inte sk?mmas f?r att ha mindre pengar en vecka eller tv?. Med 800.000 ? l?n f?r att betala f?r ett hus man inte ?nd? har r?d med och tv? bill?n med det, betyder inte att ha pengar det betyder idoti. Har b?rjat anv?nda detta i norra Europa ocks?, och ?lskar ansiktsuttrycken.

Traces of Swedes in Morgantina, Sicily

Morgantina in Sicily was discovered and excavated for about 60 years by the Swedes in the 50s. In fact, in 2009 was held an exhibition entitled “The Ruins of Archaeology in Morgantina and Gustaf VI Adolf of Sweden” with about 50 images that portray the king following the first excavations in Morgantina. The archaeologist who, since 1951 began the excavation was Erik Sj?qvist, director of the Swedish Institute in Rome.

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Morgantina p? Sicilien uppt?cktes och gr?vdes fram f?r omkring 60 ?r sedan av svenskarna p? 50-talet. I sj?lva verket ordnades under 2009 en utst?llning med titeln The Ruins of Archaeology i Morgantina and Gustaf VI Adolf of Sverigemed ca 50 bilder som skildrar kungen efter de f?rsta utgr?vningarna i Morgantina. Den arkeolog som, sedan 1951 p?b?rjade utgr?vningen var Erik Sj?qvist, chef f?r Svenska Institutet i Rom.

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Gustav Adolf of Sweden and Erik Sj?kvist

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Hubby & I – A Sneak Peek into a mixed cultural relation

Hubby and I are actually quite opposites; culturally and how we grew up. In lifestyle we have understood that we want the same things and he is discovering the world and learning to know his own opinions and own style, while I just like to become a farmer. So we have somehow managed to find a middle road. He is not the typical sicilian man, he wants to develop. Of course he has some parts that are typical sicilian e.g. he has difficulties to let me pay, he has also grew up with religious fear, boundaries, gender roles and stories, that for me is quite hard to live with. Well, then on the other hand it has been difficult for him to live with a woman that ain’t a typical local woman, I do not care about little problems, I have opinions, do not care about what neighbors says about us, and want to be involved in big decisions, totally opposite from classical local females. The hardest thing for him to accept is that I do not call him all the time, I want him to go out with his friends and make his drems come true, which for him in the beginning has been a sign that I do not care, but actually it is that I want him to be free and know that I trust him. And then he has to trust me because I work 99,9% with men and travel with them also abroad. This is a part we have had most discussions about.
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Hubby & I in Monreale

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F?stmannen och jag ?r faktiskt ganska mycket motsatser, kulturellt och hur vi v?xte upp. I livsstil har vi f?rst?tt att vi vill ha samma saker och han uppt?cker v?rlden och l?r k?nna sina egna ?sikter och egen stil, medan jag bara vill bli bonde. S? vi har p? n?got s?tt lyckats hitta en medelv?g. Han ?r inte den typiska sicilianska mannen, han vill utvecklas. Visst har han vissa delar som ?r typiskt sicilianska, t.ex. han har sv?rt att l?ta mig betala, han har ocks? vuxit upp med religi?s fruktan, gr?nser, k?nsroller och ber?ttelser, som f?r mig ?r ganska sv?rt att leva med. Ja, d? d?remot har det varit sv?rt f?r honom att leva med en kvinna som inte ?r en typisk lokal kvinna, jag bryr mig inte om sm? problem, jag har ?sikter, bryr mig inte om vad grannarna s?ger om oss, och vill vara delaktig i stora beslut, helt motsatt fr?n klassiska lokala kvinnor. Det sv?raste f?r honom att acceptera ?r att jag inte ringer honom hela tiden, vill att han g?r ut med sina v?nner och att hans dr?mmar besannas, vilket f?r honom i b?rjan har varit ett tecken p? att jag inte bryr mig, men det ?r faktiskt att jag vill att han ska vara fri och veta att jag litar p? honom. Och d? han m?ste lita p? mig eftersom jag arbetar 99,9% med m?n och reser med dem ocks? utomlands. Detta ?r en stor del av diskussionerna som vi har haft.

To swear or not to swear

Comparing to Sicilian swearing, swedish swearing sounds like a church chorus. In Sweden we maximum say “Shit Inferno” (Helvetes Skit) or those with really bad manners go on the female sex, which most feminists always complains about.
In Sicily, and Italy, swearing is mostly attacking the male gender, not so much on the female gender and sometimes more on the mother. Italian common words are Dick Head, Testa di Cazzo or Testa di Minchia, or if someone is pissing you off they say Breaking the Balls, Schiacciare la Minchia or Schiacciare il Cazzo. Sometimes you hear Porca Puttana, which means Slut Whore.
To really offend they go on the family, but that happens almost never in Sicily. Saw written on the wall in Syracuse and it said “Slut *name* with a dead sister” or they can say to a person to go and fuck his mother. That is the worse and very bad manners.
To explain a very bad business man they can also say He is the ass and the dick, Lui e’ il cazzo e culo, which means he is fucking himself.

Swearing in Sicily is daily life.Men avoid to swear infront of women, because women are not supposed to use bad words, but the younger female generation does, those pretty lady games are over. I have started to swear automatically in Sicily, have my own mixes, but when I leave Sicily somehow I automatically do not swear, because in Swedish, Finnish and English I rarely swore.

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J?mf?rt med sicilianska svordomar, l?ter svenska svordomar som en kyrkk?r. I Sverige kan vi maximalt s?ga Helvetes Skit eller de med riktigt d?lig stil g?r p? det kvinnliga k?net, vilket de flesta feminister alltid klagar p?.
P? Sicilien och Italien, ?r sv?randet mest attacker p? det manliga k?net, inte s? mycket p? det kvinnliga k?net och ibland mer p? mamman. Italienska vanliga ord ?r Kukhuvud, Testa di Cazzo eller Testa di Minchia, eller om n?gon verkligen irriterar s?ger de Krossar Ballarna, Schiacciare la Minchia eller Schiacciare il Cazzo. Ibland h?r man Porca Puttana, vilket betyder Slamp Hora.
F?r att verkligen f?rol?mpa g?r man p? familjen, men det h?nder n?stan aldrig p? Sicilien. S?g skrivet p? v?ggen i Sirakusa Slampa *namn* med en d?d systereller de kan ?ga till en person att g? och knulla hans mamma.Men det ?r det v?rsta av v?rsta och mycket d?ligt s?tt.
Att f?rklara en mycket d?lig aff?rsman, kan de ocks? s?ga att han ?r R?ven och Kuken, Lui e il cazzo e culo, vilket betyder att han knullar sig sj?lv.

Sv?randet p? Sicilien ?r dagligt liv, men m?n undviker att sv?ra framf?r kvinnor, eftersom kvinnor inte ska anv?nda fula ord, men den yngre kvinnliga generationen g?r det, de vackra dam spelen ?r ?ver. Jag har b?rjat sv?ra automatiskt p? Sicilien, har mina egna mixar, men n?r jag l?mnar Sicilien h?nder n?got och jag slutar automatiskt att sv?ra, eftersom p? svenska, finska och engelska svor jag s?llan.

Interview in Ecocide Daily and Swedish Metro

Ecocide Daily in English click here
Metro 20th June in Swedish, click here – Page 23. Photo is horrible, why did they choose that one? 🙂

Suicide

An issue I run into not so often but when I do it’s always the question why Sweden has a high suicide rate. Last time at MailBox sending samples. First they praised Sweden, then asked why the hell I am here and then ask about the suicide reason. So of course I told the following, excluding statistics.
Some sicilians blame our high suicide rate because we leave home so early to defend the mammoni culture, but of course it’s not true. Mammoni culture brings other issues we very rarely deal with in Scandinavia.
According to WHO global statistics, Sweden is placed 35 with 11,9 suicides per 100,000 (from 2009). Italy is placed 66 with 6,3 suicides per 100,000 (from 2007).
First of all in Sweden statistics is actually showing the reality quite well, you can almost for sure rely on it. In Italy you can not rely on national statistics if it’s not from e.g. Banca Italia. Sweden is a secular country, so if someone commits suicide, then it’s registred as suicide. In Italy catholics are forbidden to commit suicide, and if they do they go directly to hell. So if a person commits suicide, to avoid hell the death reason can many times be registered as “caused of natural reasons” or “illness”.
And old man stood in line and listened with a stressed face, but he said also that the italians faith issue is true. Especially in south Italy where people still are very religious.
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En fr?ga jag inte st?ter p? ofta men n?r jag g?r det ?r alltid fr?gan varf?r Sverige har en h?g sj?lvmordsfrekvens. F?rra g?ngen vid MailBox n?r jag skickade prover. F?rst prisades Sverige, sedan fr?gade vad i helvete jag ?r h?r och sedan undrar de om sj?lvmordsanledningen. S? naturligtvis sa jag f?ljande, med undantag av statistik.
Vissa sicilianare skyller v?r h?ga sj?lvmordsfrekvens p? att vi l?mnar hemmet s? tidigt f?r att f?rsvara Mammoni kulturen, men det ?r naturligtvis inte sant. Mammoni kulturen ger andra problem som vi mycket s?llan st?ter p? i Skandinavien.
Enligt WHO: s globala statistik ?r Sverige placerat 35 med 11,9 sj?lvmord per 100.000 (fr?n 2009). Italien ?r placerad 66 med 6,3 sj?lvmord per 100.000 (fr?n 2007).
F?rst av allt visar Sveriges statistik faktiska verkligheten ganska bra, du kan n?stan s?kert lita p? det. I Italien kan du inte lita p? nationell statistik om det inte kommer fr?n t.ex. Banca Italia. Sverige ?r ett sekulariserat land, s? om n?gon beg?r sj?lvmord, d? det registreras som sj?lvmord. I Italien ?r det f?rbjudet f?r katoliker att beg? sj?lvmord, och om de g?r det hamnar de direkt i helvetet. S? om en person beg?r sj?lvmord och f?r att undvika helvetet, kan d?d orsaken m?nga g?nger vara registrerad som orsakats av naturliga sk?l eller sjukdom. En ?ldre man stod i k?n och lyssnade med ett stressat ansikte, men han sade ocks? att italienarnas trofr?ga i detta ?r sant, speciellt i s?dra Italien d?r de fortfarande ?r mycket religi?sa.

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