I m?nga l?nder i denna v?rld lever m?nniskor fortfarande under sociala regler d?r valet av?en partner inte har s? mycket att g?ra med k?rlek, det har mer att g?ra med den utvaldes finansiella resurser eller t.ex. ett viktigt efternamn som ger status till familjen. P? Sicilien, en ? i Europa, 2011, ?r det m?nga g?nger p? detta s?tt. ?ktenskapet har mer att g?ra med vad den andra partnern kan erbjuda i materia. Ekonomi, makt, status, familjes?kerhet osv. K?rlek ?r n?got annat. Sj?lvklart finns det m?nniskor som v?ljer deras framtida partner p? grund av k?rlek, men?majoriteten ?r fortfarande s? h?r. Du ska se till att gifta dig rikt, eller ?tminstone n?gon med en bra l?n, fin bil och en del fastigheter. M?nga g?nger kan ocks? bra utseende passera, speciellt om du ?r en vacker slank kvinna ?r dina chanser att ha en rik framtid mycket h?g. M?nga g?nger ser du?unga flickor gifta sig med en mycket ?ldre man, p? grund av pengar.
Kommer fr?n ett m?ngskiftande land, inte bara Sverige ?r det motsatta, d?r dejta en snickare eller en bankdirekt?r ?r mestadels samma. Det ?r ovanligt att h?ra n?gon gifta sig f?r pengar. F?r flesta ?r?det viktigare att vara k?r i honom eller henne. Viktigt att personen har ett jobb, betalar r?kningar och inte har?kriminell aktivitet. Inte s? viktigt med utseende heller, det viktigaste ?r att den valda personen ?r frisk i sinnet eller som vissa s?ger, “normala”.
Att f?rst? dessa saker ger dig ocks? en f?rklaring till varf?r familjesystemet ?r olik och varf?r vissa beteenden accepteras. Om du kommer fr?n ett land d?r du har lyxen att v?lja vem du vill, underskatta inte det. St?der inte det sicilianska s?ttet, jag uppskattar lyxen att kunna falla i k?rlek i?k?rleken!
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Eng: In many countries in this world people still live under social rules where choosing a life partner don’t have so?much to do with love, it has more to do with the chosen ones financial resources or e.g. a important lastname that gives status to the family. In Sicily, a island in Europe, 2011, it’s many times this way. Marriage has more to do with what the other partner can offer in materia. Economy, power, status, family security etc. Love is something else. Of course there are people who chose their future partner because of love, but major part is still like this. You should look to marry rich or at least someone with a good paycheck, nice car?and some real estate. Many times also good looks can pass, especially if you are a beautiful slender woman your chances to have a wealthy future is very high. Many times you see young girls marry a much older man, because of money.
Coming from a diverse country, not only Sweden is the opposite,?where dating a carpenter or a banc director is mostly the same, it’s rare to hear someone getting married for money. It’s major part of having a life partner?to fall in love with him or her. Important that?the person?has a job, pays bills and don’t have unlegal activity. Looks ain’t that important either, most important is that the chosen person is sane or as some people say, “normal”.
Understanding these things gives you also an explanation why the family system is so much different and why certain behaviour is accepted. If you come from a country where you have the luxury to choose who you like, never underestimate that. Don’t support the Sicilian way, I appreciate to have the luxury to fall in love with love!
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