When will you get married?

A question that pops up from people quite often here is When will you get married? And I answer When the lawyer has guaranteed that my man is free from all legal obligations. And that I am guaranteed not to have working problems by some law if we would get kids.

I am very tired of these women are victims media and documentaries from these areas. Because that image is not true. That information does never bring up the legal benefits women have here when they get married and why so many foreign women wants to marry an italian. And why ain’t there a study of how many women worked before and after the wedding?

When a couple gets married the woman enters in the mans economical circle. Which means that if the man has not been smart enough to protect his assets, he may never be able to divorce or has to kill to get rid of his wife. As if he wants a divorce, the man has to maintain the womans lifestyle for the rest of her life or until she gets married again. This means he has to pay a monthly sum to his ex-wife until she dies or gets married again. This is not valid if the woman is rich and the man not, he does not get a penny.

Then as many here notice is that within a year after marriage the first child is born. This way she is guaranteed to the mans house until the youngest child is 18 years old. So not only must he pay, he also loses his home. And as many may have noticed that the woman often stops working after the wedding because she knows he has to provide for her.

If the man wants to divorce, (I write the man because it is often the man who sends in the request), it depends on if they got married in church or civil. If they got married in church, as most do, the divorce takes years, at least 3-4 years, and costs alot of money for the man of course. Civil within a year and one fixed sum. To avoid that his ex-wife gets his assets, their home if often registered as his fathers property and to avoid to pay for his ex-wife ends many times that he gets a residence at his parents, lives somewhere else and makes himself unemployed and finds a job that is not registered. Without an registered income, he does not have to pay for her. Custody of children the mother gets automatically even if she has no income.

Have followed some female homicide cases and see that many times the story is the same, the man wants to divorce but he can’t because of economic reasons. This is one big reason why so many women gets killed by their husbands.

Also personally know some men in this shitty situation. All they want is that the ex-wife somehow disapears forever or gets married again. One man pays 800 ? for his ex-wife, 350 ? for his child. He is allowed to see his child twice a month for 24 hours. He and his new woman can not start a new life together until the church divorce goes through. Three years has already passed. His ex-wife is young and can work, but she does not need to as she gets 1150 ? monthly forever from her ex-husband to come. He was smart enough that when he bought property, all is registered on his family. She does not get any part of that.

Does this make sense?

Then people say that they do not divorce like we do in our godless countries. Well, here a divorce is separate bedrooms or man lives in another property, but the couple is registered under the same address.? Non official divorces here are as common as official ones in our countries with easier laws.

Svenska

En fr?ga som dyker upp fr?n folk ganska ofta h?r ?r N?r ska du gifta dig? Och jag svarar N?r advokaten har garanterat att min man ?r fri fr?n alla r?ttsliga skyldigheter. Och att jag inte lagligen f?rhindras i arbetet om vi skulle f? barn.

Jag ?r v?ldigt tr?tt p? dessa kvinnor ?r offer media och dokument?rer fr?n dessa omr?den. Eftersom den bilden ?r inte sann. Dessa beh?ver aldrig ta upp de juridiska f?rdelarna kvinnor har h?r n?r de gifter sig, och varf?r s? m?nga utl?ndska kvinnor vill gifta sig med en italienare. Och varf?r finns det inte en studie av hur m?nga kvinnor som arbetade f?re och efter br?llopet?

N?r ett par gifter sig ?r kvinnan inne i mannens ekonomiska cirkel. Vilket inneb?r att om mannen inte har varit smart nog att skydda sina tillg?ngar, kan han nog aldrig kunna skilja sig eller m?ste d?da f?r att bli av med sin fru. Om han vill skiljas, ska mannen bibeh?lla kvinnans livsstil f?r resten av hennes liv eller tills hon gifter sig igen. Detta inneb?r att han m?ste betala en m?natlig summa till sin ex–fru tills hon d?r eller gifter sig igen. Detta g?ller inte om kvinnan ?r rik och mannen inte, han f?r inte ett ?re.

Som m?nga h?r har sett ?r att inom ett ?r efter ?ktenskapet f?ds f?rsta barnet. P? detta s?tt ?r hon garanterad till mannens hus tills det yngsta barnet ?r 18 ?r gammal. S? inte bara ska han betala, han f?rlorar ocks? sitt hem. Och som m?nga kanske har m?rkt att kvinnan ofta slutar att arbeta efter br?llopet eftersom hon vet att han m?ste f?rs?rja henne.

Om mannen vill skiljas, (jag skriver mannen eftersom det ofta ?r mannen som s?nder en beg?ran), beror det p? om de gifte sig i kyrkan eller civilt. Om de gifte sig i kyrkan, som de flesta g?r, tar skilsm?ssan ?r, minst 3-4 ?r, och kostar mycket pengar f?r mannen f?rst?s. Det civila inom ett ?r och ett fast belopp. F?r att undvika att hans ex–fru f?r hans tillg?ngar, ?r hans hem ofta registrerad som hans faders egendom, och f?r att undvika att betala f?r sin ex–fru slutar m?nga g?nger att han skriver in sig hos sina f?r?ldrar, bor n?gon annanstans och g?r sig sj?lv arbetsl?s och finner ett jobb som inte ?r registrerad. Utan registrerad inkomst, kan han inte betala till henne. V?rdnaden av barnen f?r mamman automatiskt ?ven om hon inte har n?gon inkomst.

Har f?ljt vissa kvinnomordsfall och sett att m?nga g?nger ?r historien densamma, mannen vill skiljas men han kan inte p? grund av ekonomiska sk?l. Detta ?r en stor anledning till varf?r s? m?nga kvinnor blir d?dade av sina m?n.

Personligen k?nner jag vissa m?n i denna shitty situation. Allt de vill ?r att ex-frun p? n?got s?tt f?rsvinner f?r evigt eller gifter sig igen. En man betalar 800 ? f?r sin ex–fru, 350 ? f?r sitt barn. Han f?r se sitt barn tv? g?nger i m?naden under 24 timmar. Han och hans nya kvinna kan inte starta ett nytt liv tillsammans tills kyrkliga skilsm?ssan g?r igenom. Tre ?r har redan g?tt. Hans f?re detta fru ?r ung och kan arbeta, men hon beh?ver inte eftersom hon f?r 1150 ? per m?nad f?r evigt fr?n hennes ex–make att komma. Han var smart nog att n?r han k?pte fastigheter, ?r allt registrerad p? hans familj. Hon f?r inte n?gon del av detta.

?r detta vettigt?

Sen s?ger folk att de inte skiljer sig som vi g?r i v?ra gudl?sa l?nder. Tja, h?r ?r en skilsm?ssa separata sovrum eller mannen bor i en annan bostad, men paret ?r registrerat under samma adress. Icke officiella skilsm?ssor h?r ?r lika vanliga som officiella ?r i v?ra l?nder med enklare lagstiftning.